Most people say breaking a cycle takes courage.
It doesn’t.
It takes honesty.
Before a pattern can be interrupted, it must be seen. Not excused. Not dramatized. Seen.
Cycles persist because they feel normal. They repeat often enough that they become rhythm. And rhythm begins to feel inevitable.
It isn’t.
Recognition disrupts inevitability.
It is the moment you notice that escalation is not strength. That volume is not authority. That correction does not require humiliation. That intensity is not proof of importance.
Recognition asks harder questions:
Is this proportionate?
Is this stable?
Is this necessary?
Or is this simply familiar?
Familiarity is powerful. It disguises itself as truth.
But once you see a pattern clearly, you cannot unsee it. And once you cannot unsee it, you are responsible for your response.
That is where the break begins.
Cycle breaking is rarely dramatic. It is disciplined.
It is the decision not to mirror what destabilized you.
It is the choice to pause where others escalated.
It is the refusal to confuse reaction with leadership.
Recognition removes invisibility. And without invisibility, patterns lose their authority.
You do not need to overthrow the past to change the future.
You need to observe it clearly enough to stop repeating it.
Recognition is the first act of strength.
And once you see clearly, the question is no longer what happened.
The question is what you will reinforce next.
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K. Lynn Vox
K. Lynn Vox 